so its been a while since iv written anything on here…anyways.. im one of those where its all about trying to start a paper, article, blog w/e…as soon as i start i cant stop..its a matter of finding the right topic (or like for a paper finding the first 2 sentences…then it all rolls out. (is tht just a me thing?) -but ..im not going to ramble tonight….so for my topic, i was just wondering what everyones thoughts were on intercultural & interracial dating/marrying. This might be a little off to left/right field (w/e the saying is, im not into baseball :p ) being that America is a “melting pot” so a grand majority of people living here are a little bit of everthing. but im sure you can all think of people you know, or yourself if you fall into this predictament & can relate. – - a good friend of mine is a white male – dating a black female, theyve been in a steady & strong relationship for the past 4 years & plan on getting married (they are in their mid 20’s..) but offcourse the racial card comes up, and they get a lot of people judging them for it and people saying “you should stick to your own” blah blah. and taht “say your child comes out black, and grows up and marrys another black person…their kids could turn out white…” **PS im not agreeing with the people that were making comments such as those, just saying what people have told them** back to my story… – so theres that issue right. –but what if its not racial..wut if its cultural.
what happens when a couple is from a country *(hmm…lets use Greece as an example!) and they move to america to make money, and have children in america. Well, those children are going to grow up in America’s system, and even though they are 100% Greek – (or w/e nationality) they still live in america, and when it is time for them to date and meet people, they are going to find americans that are mixed, pure irish, italian, colombian, ect. –is it right for the parents to want their offspring- even though they live in america – to find the same nationality as they are? to “stick to their kind”. becuase it will “mess up the pure blood-line” because then your children will turn out – half and half..and your grandchildren will become a mix of who knows what ect, n quickly that pride in your country and that 100% (greek-ness for example, is gone). even when living in america, these kids growing up, have more pride for their mother-land than anthing else. not that they are anti-american by no means, but their country plays a very big role in who they are – “cultural identity”…. - now the automatic response to if they should stick to someone from their own culture is usualy “No one can put boundaries on the heart! its whoever you fall in love with” (sounds so simple) …and i do agree with that… but the people on the cultural side will say time in & time out that the other person will never be able to fully understand you (and i dont mean language, they can learn a language..) but they wont be able to feel what you feel inside when you hear a song from your part of w/e country – or that proud feeling you get in general for your country…whether you are on vacation there laying on teh beach seeing a F16 fly overhead & tht feeling of pride that those are your soldiers.. the customs the traditions, the religion. the smile on ur face when you find ppl in america from your country & how even though they might be complete strangers, you get that instant bond, because you are both from -w/e country. -the feeling of being at an airport, in a mall, some kind of public place and you hear someone speaking your language. everything your parents instilled in you as a young child revolves around the culture you are from when you are 1st or even 2nd generation here from anther country, because in most cases the parents/grandparents came to america in hopes of making money & always going back to the mother land. so much about who you are and what you believe in revolves around that when your from another country & raise in the usa. so what happens when you try and “colaborate” if u will, with another person from a totally different culture? i guess you wont know if it’ll work till after youve tried it…but will it be too late then? -a close friend of mine is cuban and her mother tells her *(and my mother has said it as well..oddly enough, and i disagree with it completly) - that you need to put yourself around your “kind” (culture/race) inorder to find what your looking for, and that if you put yourself around people that arent of your “kind” you need to keep your guard up & not let yourself fall in “love”, that you should catch it before it happens. but who can control who they like? because then you could be purpously walking away from someone that could have been the most important person in your life, in hopes of finding what parents from the “old country” believe is the perfect match.
so i ask you, are differences what draw people closer or push them farther apart? its a double edge sword …